Barbara J. Hamby

Contemplating Valentine’s Day

With two weeks to go before Valentine’s Day, it seems like a good time to talk about how to find a Valentine, for those who may be interested. I’ve spent a lot of time today navigating a web ring with many different subjects and sites to explore. I found a multitude of resources for lonely hearts of all ages.

I suspect that one could Google search almost any relationship word and locate unlimited responses. There are articles, books and matchmaking services on the web.

Articles mention the many places one might look for a partner of whatever type is desired, be it a pen pal, a friend, a lover, a life mate, or any other relationship you might wish.

The most obvious strategy is to hang out in an interest group (club, church, class, roller rink, bowling alley, etc.) where you will find people who share your enthusiasm for whatever activity you choose. Most everyone is addicted to eating, so even a grocery store can offer opportunities. The trick there is to find a balance between being too shy or too aggressive.

With practice, you can learn to determine whether another person is interested in getting to know you, or just killing time while standing in line, or whatever. Caution is always wise. I’m not sure where serial killers hang out, but I?‘e been lucky enough not to run into any, I’m fairly sure.

Most anyone who gives advice on meeting a stranger for the first time, will stress being in a public place where escape, if necessary, will be easy. Don’t be over-confident about your ability to judge character. Many people have been fooled by a prospective partner’s good looks, neat clothing and big smiles.

Caution is especially important if you choose to meet someone in person that you’ve met online or by phone from a personals ad. Learn as much as you can about the person before agreeing to meet. Don’t necessarily believe all that you’re told at first. A crowded public place is best for such a meeting. You might even have a friend watching from a nearby table at a restaurant, coffee house or bar. You could arrange to signal the friend if you want to be rescued and summoned to a phone or some other location.

However you go about looking, be friendly, but wary. May Cupid ride on your shoulder, if you want him.